If we’re honest, the church hasn’t always done a great job of elevating diverse voices. Women, people of color, and other marginalized groups often find themselves on the outskirts of our faith communities, with no one they can learn from who shares their life experiences. This is a problem that Ashlee Eiland knows well. Both as a black woman and as a pastor and author, Ashlee has felt this pain, and she wants to work to help mend it. In a continuation of our ongoing conversations about racial reconciliation, Ashlee sits down with Aubrey to talk about her experiences and the radical kindness that God has called each of us to display in this pivotal moment in history.
For most of us, life-altering tragedies are something we experience in rare instances. For a firefighter in a big city, they’re everyday occurrences. Working as a first responder in the Oakland Fire Department, Jason Sautel saw suffering, tragedy, and death constantly. Jason looked to his job to make something of his life and to redeem his troubled childhood, but without any hope to draw from, he eventually ran dry himself. The misery he saw on a daily basis was too much for Jason, and at his lowest moment, he planned to take his own life. Instead, Jason found Jesus and learned that there was hope even in the worst circumstances.
In the wake of the fires currently raging in California and other parts of the western US, it's perhaps clearer than ever just how much of a challenge jobs like Jason's are. We depend on people like Jason for our safety, but that comes at a tremendous cost to these brave men and women. Jason knows what it feels like to walk through literal fires to save a life, and what that can do to a person, but he also knows a source of hope that makes that can transform that pain into purpose. Jason sits down with Davey to share a bit of his story and how he’s made it his mission to help others see God in the midst of their trials.
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We’ve probably all heard the sermons about not trusting our emotions. “We should preach to our feelings and not let them lead us,” they say. After all, the heart is deceitful above all things, right? While that may be true, it doesn’t mean we should ignore our emotions or treat them as excess baggage. That’s something that Elizabeth Laing Thompson knows very well. Elizabeth advocates for us to recognize that God made us as emotional beings, and our feelings are not some problem for us to push aside or fight against. Elizabeth sits down with Davey to share some of her story of how she’s come to grips with her own feelings and how we can learn to have a healthy relationship with our own emotions.
Failure is not something any of us want. It is consistently ranked as one of the most common fears, but it is also a fact of life. None of us make it through with a perfect record. That’s something that Os Hillman learned the hard way. After not one but two failed marriages and going from thriving in business to being broke, Os had been through failure and adversity on a tremendous scale. What Os learned is that God was in those trials, and that are lessons to be learned from all of our failures if we are willing to listen. Os sits down with Davey to share a bit of his story and the lessons he’s learned the hard way on his journey.
For some of us, the idea of racial trauma is entirely theoretical. We maybe understand it as a thing of the past from the limited history we were taught, or we turn on the TV and see reports of it happening to someone else. Someone who doesn’t look like us. But we don’t all have that luxury, that unique privilege of experiencing racism in the third person. Sheila Wise Rowe knows this all too well. Ever since she was a child, racial trauma was a part of Sheila’s life. Now she’s made it her mission to help others heal from it. Sheila sits down with Davey for an important conversation about her story and what each of us can do in this pivotal moment in history.
We are living in times unlike any in our country’s history. In the months following the killing of George Floyd, nearly every eye in the country has been on the unfolding story of racial tension. In the wake of this tragedy and the ongoing conversations about it, Davey was joined by LaMorris Crawford to discuss the topic of racial reconciliation and what each of us can do in this unprecedented moment in history.
This conversation was originally released as a video. To watch the whole conversation, head over to @nothingiswastedministries on Instagram.
As a pastor, Dr. Adam B. Dooley had preached about having faith in the midst of trials many times. After all, what pastor hasn’t? But standing in a hospital room with his three-year-old son, Adam’s theoretical knowledge was about the become practical. No parent should have to hear that their child has leukemia. With an uphill battle in front of his family and questions of whether his son would even survive, Adam was forced to find hope in the middle of the deepest darkness. Adam sits down with Davey to share a bit of story and what he’s learned through it all.
We want to believe that the churches and other Christian environments that our children grow up in will always be safe, but too often that isn’t the case. This is something Jill Monaco knows all too well. After a sexual assault from a priest as a child, Jill grew up wondering what was wrong with her. What had she done to invite this horrible abuse? As her adult life fell into a spiral of continued sexual and spiritual abuse, Jill was forced to learn the truth of who God is and who he says she is apart from the brokenness of others that she was experiencing. Jill sits down with Davey to share some of her story and how she’s helping others learn the hard lessons that God has taught her.
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While Erin was in the midst of grieving her traumatic loss, Steve was about to walk into one of his own. He and his wife Wendy went to bed one night just like any other happily married couple, but Wendy never woke up. In the second part of their conversation with Davey, Steve shares his story and the couple shares how they found each other in the wake of unimaginable tragedy and what God has done in their lives since.
Before Erin Ullmer had met her husband Steve, before her new life and new family, there was the moment on the bridge. The moment where everything changed. A peaceful day walking in the park for Erin, her husband John, and their kids turned into a life-defining moment when Erin lost her husband, her daughter, and very nearly her life in a random act of violence. In this first part of their conversation with Davey, Erin and Steve share the beginning of her story and how God met her in a place of unimaginable pain.